‘Is this like a generational thing that’s normal??’: Gen Z bride-to-be tries to crowdfund wedding and honeymoon by posting Cash App links to everyone she knows, leaving her sister and family baffled and embarrassed

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Oct 3, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

I've heard my fair share of creative wedding stories, but I'm pretty sure this one takes the cake, that is, if the guests are willing to pay for said cake because it looks like Gen Z invents a new level of matrimony multitasking by asking friends, family, and even that barista from last summer for a couple of bucks toward the dream wedding and tropical getaway. Bouquets start costing bridesmaid donations, and the list of soft asks stretches longer than the vows.

Some wedding trends are easy to laugh off, but this one might set a new record for creative nerve. Imagine firing up social media just to find a steady stream of QR codes and cash app links from a couple crowdfunding not just their wedding, but the honeymoon, bouquets, and every slice of cake. Even people who aren't invited end up on the donation list, while bridesmaids get tapped to sponsor the flowers. All that, and the celebration hasn't even started yet.

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  • My gen z sister attempting to crowd fund her wedding 🫠

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  • ETA sorry the post is a tad confusing but I meant that the bride is asking for honeymoon funds as well as wedding funds via social media, so basically hounding everyone she knows for money vs just the guests invited to the wedding lol asking guests for honeymoon funds is totally fine but I'm sure the people she knows not invited to the wedding are probably annoyed af Y'all...I'm so embarrassed and idk why cause it's not my wedding...but my little sister's wedding is this weekend and I CANNOT WAI
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  • Budget weddings are a badge of honor for most families, yet apparently, saving up is so last season. Why wait and plan when you can treat your timeline like a rolling GoFundMe? Social media gets roped into the campaign, transforming what used to be invitations into persistent payment requests, accompanied by regular updates about how close we are to financing tomorrow’s cake. The family soon finds itself joining the crowd, at least considering itjust so the big day includes both flowers and the promise of a getaway for the newlyweds.

  • Her and her fiancé (whom I'm not the biggest fan of) have asked their social media friends and family every single week for the last 8 months to help crowd fund BOTH the wedding AND the honeymoon (in lieu of a registry).
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  • Like asking friends and family on social media to contribute to their honeymoon via a link or to "help out with the wedding because the need a couple more things," and then she proceeds to post her cash app and Venmo QR codes.
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  • Is this like a generational thing that's normal?? She's 22 and he's like 25 or something.
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  • I'm not much older but , I saved for my own wedding and would never have asked anyone let alone on social media to help pay... It's actually insane and she has even asked us bridesmaids if we'd want to pay for the wedding bouquets as the ones she wants are too expensive.
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  • The wedding is already no alcol, food and cake paid for and made by family, just budget everything which is fine but WHYYYYY are we asking people to help pay for the actual wedding stuff.
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  • They're young and have barely known each other for 1.5 years, already have a baby blah blah blah.
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  • I'm just venting because I know this is a mistake on her end, they should've waited another year to save up money and actually get to know one another more.
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  • I'm nervous I won't be able to keep my facial expressions controlled on the big day, my utter disgust is going to show through
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  • Every new “support our special day” post means another chance to practice the subtle art of hiding confusion at the budget breakdown. Guests supply cake, relatives cover dinner, and somehow, even the bouquets need a little crowdfunding cheer. It’s a mess of QR codes, cash apps, and barely-veiled dread about what viral wedding finance will inspire next.

  • forget-me-not-valley Why the f is she getting married at 22, she should be at the club
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  • OP mcdon2jm Exactly haha
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  • Echo-Azure It's not usual, but it's becoming far more common. It's hideously tacky, no matter how many times it's done. I actually almost hope that she's tasteless enough to chide the guests at her own wedding for not contributing more! I'd di trying not to laugh out loud...
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  • OP mcdon2jm Hahahahaha right?! My other sister and I have just been in disbelief for months.
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  • LisaLou71 What was the environment like growing up, for her to turn out to be an entitled mooch?
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  • OP mcdon2jm We have different moms, her mother is equally tacky and absurd. What's crazy to me is my sister was gifted like $80k a couple of years ago as an inheritance from her late grandmother... and it's all gone lol
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  • Remarkable-Wrap-4727 No alcol? No way
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  • OP mcdon2jm They don't want "anyone to ruin their wedding." There will be an after party but that's also byob
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  • audigex It's fairly common now for wedding guests to give money toward the honeymoon in lieu of a gift People generally live together for years before getting married now so the traditional "here's a household item to get you started in your new home" gift doesn't make as much sense anymore But asking people to specifically give you money to pay for the ceremony is tacky
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  • OP mcdon2jm I agree about the honeymoon fund thing, no issues there but keep it to GUESTS of the wedding only...not posted all over Facebook and Instagram for everyone lol
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  • horshack_test Just donate or give a gift you can reasonably afford and leave it at that. If she asks for more, tell her you can;t afford it - just like she can't. "she has even asked us bridesmaids if we'd want to pay for the wedding bouquets as the ones she wants are too expensive." Tell her no.
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  • OP mcdon2jm Yes all of us bridesmaids said no we weren't going to pay for the flowers haha hard no
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  • PerspectiveEven9928 I mean I'd be helping my sister y suggesting that what she is doing is so incredibly tacky that it's all anyone will remember about her wedding for the rest of her life "ahh yes. Mary. The one who begged all over for money to pay for her wedding"
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  • OP mcdon2jm She's 10 years younger than me and unfortunately we aren't that close as we were as kids. She won't listen to me, I tried to help her plan the wedding because she asked me to but honestly they don't have the $ to really "plan."
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  • ted1401 Considering what others are already providing, this is just a tacky, tacky cash grab. Don't worry about your facial expressions. It will be mirrored all around you! I'd have more of a problem with my mouth. But if anyone makes comments, I'd be honest. Either that or get a script for something like Ativan or librium. I'd be stressed.
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  • OP mcdon2jm Hahahaaaa I have an Ativan script, I'm sure I'll be medicated a little that day
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  • Resilient_Can As someone who married young and eloped, it's painful sometimes to comprehend people demanding a fairytale wedding when they can't afford it. Tbh I even disagree (though have participated in) the whole being invited to a multi-event weekend long bachelorette party where the bride pays NOTHING like she's going off to war not already living with him... I guess I needed to vent too lol OP did you "donate"?
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  • OP mcdon2jm It is so painful! They bought a house and had a baby this year, can't even afford to get their vehicles fixed but yet the wedding HAD to happen this year. It's crazy! I did not donate haha I've spent a ton on her between the baby shower, baby shower gift, bridal shower, bridal shower gift, plus my dress as a bridesmaid
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  • kams32902 I don't agree with crowd funding a wedding, but I am ok with being asked for cash gifts. My sister and her fiance have lived together for 5 years, like so many people do now. They don't need household items because they already have them, so cash makes sense to me. I want to give a gift that she can actually use, and they can use cash more than they can use another toaster.
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  • OP mcdon2jm Oh yeah, cash gifts are fine for actual wedding guests who are attending the wedding. She's been asking on social media for people to donate to the honeymoon fund, which I'm assuming there are people on her social media that she hasn't invited lol just seems weird
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  • No matter how the weekend goes, there’s a good chance the honeymoon gets paid off before the couple even learns who made the mashed potatoes.

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